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Different forms of loss

There are different forms of loss, One, being the loss of someone you thought might be the person you were searching for, and thought you had finally found that person, only to have that person slowly draw away from you. many factors are involved in any relationship, and sometimes it is hard to figure out.
We are not all born with an ability to understand another person, but we do our best and hope that is enough.
I guess only God knows what is inside each of us.

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Permalink Reply by Pixie Bavle-Nolin on May 6, 2008 at 2:01am: John, I think that we all feel that way sometimes. I wrote my previous post in hopes that it could help someone understand that everyone has times of wanting to be alone.

People are simply human and have moods. Lloyd used to have his moods of wanting to be left alone and at first I took it personally but then I realized that humans deal with life in different ways.

Hopefully these posts can help people understand and not feel pushed away but instead to understand and let the person work it out.

I for one usually like to be alone and those that know me best, accept it and wait until they know that I'm ready to come out of my cave. And you're right. Only God knows the true person and what is going on in their lives.

If it is as you think, then you can't control it, but I think you should just give the person some space.

Since I know you, I think I can honestly say, it's late and you're doing that analyzing thing again. Go to sleep. You'll see things more clearly in the morning.; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Rocky on May 13, 2008 at 1:24pm: John Heckerman, you should consider what makes that person draw away. Sometimes we are selfish and want that person so terribly that we don't even notice what they want. I one time had a big crush on a girl who didn't know I was alive and it hurt but I just went on with life and then once I got away from the infactution I understood that she wasn't the right one. It's not really a loss at all.; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Pixie Bavle-Nolin on May 16, 2008 at 5:31am: Rocky, well put. I can't count the times I've heard someone say that so and so was the one for them when it really never was. Sometimes it's just because they can't have them. The ones that finally got so and so, ended up having nothing but complaints about that person and it finally ended.

I have always like the saying "I'll never forget what's his name".; ▶ Reply to This